Be the Best You...You can be!

Be The BEST YOU..... You Can Be!
by Gloria Newsome

Having great self-confidence or a high self-esteem will help in just about every area of your life. You were not born with self-confidence or high self-esteem - these you develop over the years. Self-confidence is trusting that you have what it takes, to handle whatever happens. You feel sure of yourself and enjoy trying new things, without letting doubts or fears hold you back. When you have confidence in others, you rely on them.
Being constantly criticized by others tends to slowly strip you of our feelings of self worth. Your low self esteem strips you of your self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions. You begin think little of yourself, and feel you do not deserve to be happy.

Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best, but do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.
Avoid loud and aggressive people who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you. Do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.

Your level of confidence and self-esteem is really the result of how you see yourself - which is ultimately how people will see you. How people interact and respond to you is a mirror of how you see yourself. So if you don't have a high level of self-confidence or a great deal of self-esteem - then it's usually because you are focusing on your negative qualities and what you do wrong. Stop being your own worst enemy!

While admiration and validation from others is always nice, you may want to focus on strengthening your own sense of validation and confidence daily. When you understand that your self-worth stems from you, you can turn your attention inward and give yourself the love you deserve. Doing this on a regular basis could sustain you and keep your confidence strong, even when others are not showering you with admiration and praise. When you learn to praise yourself and build our self-worth, you will discover a deep well of confidence and inner strength that you can consistently depend on because it is coming from within.

Focus on positive things and the things in life that you are good at. Become the best you can be! Tell yourself everyday "I can do this" and believe it! Be your own best cheerleader and supporter. Understand that NO ONE is perfect..we all make mistakes, many just have a different way of expressing or showing...but don't focus on the negative for it can only get you down, depressed, unmotivated, and cause you to lose your confidence. Focus on your positive qualities, the things that you like about yourself and you'll begin to attract people who like you for those positive qualities.

Don't dismiss or ignore those qualities that you don't like about yourself. Take a closer look and then think about what you can do to change - so that you eliminate the things you don't like about yourself. We all have things within us that we don't like. No one is the exception....so know that you are not alone.

The most important thing of all is that you have to believe in yourself. If you believe you can, then you will be able to.
Once you convince your subconscious the way you want to be, you will find that you will start to become far more confident and life will be the way you want it. Be aggressive. Boosting your self-esteem is all about getting what you need/want. So do things for your own sake. Remember, you must help yourself first before you can help others. You can't lose or give away what you don't have so be selfish and when you come to a higher level to yourself you can start helping others with lower self-esteem. And at the end only you will recollect what you have done and define who you are and what you're about.

Your inner strength will enable you to reach your goals in life. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again. As your self confidence builds, you will feel better about yourself, and your self esteem will grow from the inside out. Every day look at yourself in the mirror. Try to find something to admire about yourself, and try to say some positive things about yourself and your accomplishments and achievements. Make sure your self talk is positive at all times. Tell yourself how great you are, or how good you look today, anything positive about yourself to help you feel confident. Make being positive your natural state of being. Learn to conquer your fears...whatever they may be. Reflect honestly on your weaknesses. Concentrate on specific things you can do to overcome the flaws you believe you have. One key to positive self-esteem is to remember that you have control over your situation.


Let me ask you a question: How Do You DEFINE You?

Please remember this: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

I value the life The Father has given to me.
It is my life and I can live it as I please.
My life may not mean much to someone else.
And how I live it is up to The Father and myself.
Only The Father knows how many years I have remaining.
But I intend to live them all without complaining.
I will treasure each day and rejoice in its pleasures.
Practicing His righteousness as a means of measure.
I will live my life daily with a song in my heart.
Singing The Father's praises until the day I depart.
And while I am living out my disappearing years.
I will be grateful to Him for putting me here!

Much Love & Big Hugs
Gloria